Omnigirl

We live our lives on auto-pilot much of the time. We forget to let others know how much we love them. We may respect or admire a person and do not compliment them since you assume they know it already. But most people do not realize the positive impact a kind word or deed can have on someone else. 

Brush with Death

Recently I had a brush with death. My son had just returned home and noticed I was slurring my words. When I could not smile he called 911.  I ended up in the emergency room. Four hours later the doctor removed the clot from my brain. I had no known risk factors: very low cholesterol, normal blood pressure and regular exercise.  They found  I  had an irregular heartbeat. In the middle of the night, I had to make a decision whether to have the clot removed. http://www.stroke.org/understand-stroke/preventing-stroke/afib-stroke-connection

Meditation

Between meditating and discussing with my son, we made the decision to do the clot removal. Being able to meditate at a time like this, helped me make a calm decision- there could be serious side effects with or without the surgery.  As I meditated I felt I was gonna make it through the surgery, if not I knew I would my spirit would still be here. While I was in the hospital I meditated again while I was having severe headaches and only given Tylenol to relive it. I saw my Grandmother’s spirit – she suggested a cold compress which helped me tremendously. http://omnigirl.net/naturemeditations/

Gratitude

I went home three days later symptom-free due to my son’s swift actions. I officiated a wedding one week after leaving the hospital.    I truly appreciated being able to do even the smallest things like taking a shower getting dressed by myself.

This event made me value the time I spend with the people who are important to me. Really listening and giving my full attention to them, instead of doing something else or having my mind on other tasks. 

It took a few weeks to get my heartbeat under control. It was a little scary but I knew my spiritual self would be OK either way. I am truly thankful for the important things in my life: my friends, my family and even nature and good food and wine – all the things that bring joy to my life. I am truly blessed to be able to write this blog today.  My final message to you: don’t wait until you have a brush with death to make the most of every moment. Truly value the people and the things  in your life that give joy in your heart and spirit. 

Most of us have experienced loss of some kind in our life. When this involves death or divorce it can be extremely difficult to find your way out of the grief. Even though friends and family mean well, some of the things they say sound like a foreign language because they have no idea how you are feeling. Sometimes we feel like we should be over it , but can not seem to move forward with our lives. Other times, we jump into something else without allowing the grieving process to complete itself. I know in my own life, I lost my father at age 19 and my mother at 29. Both were extremely difficult for me.

Until I lost my father, I thought if I worked hard I could have anything I wanted. But this time I had no control over the situation. I was the eternal optimist. I am still very optimistic but gained a little more realism in my view of the world. 

Ten years later, when my mother died four days after entering a coma, I became depressed( very unusual for me) and did not want to socialize or do anything fun. Three months later, her spirit came to me one night and I woke up as my old self. I needed to talk to her and had not been able to before she died. 

Both of these losses were very difficult, but did not uproot my world as much as losing my husband of 17 years, leaving me with a 7 year old son to raise by myself , his business and my full time job.  This loss turned my world upside down. Some friends asked if I was going to move back to my hometown. I thought they had two heads- I was trying to figure how to put one foot in front of the other and keep living.  Four years later , I started a new phase of my life as a single person again. Fifteen years later, my son has graduated college and I am engaged to a wonderful man who I have been dating for seven years.   

The main lesson I learned through these losses was to give myself permission to grieve and not to expect too much too soon from myself. At first we are overwhelmed with what has happened, it doesn’t seem real. Then we start trying to live again and find it difficult to function. We begin thinking about the past and trying to connect to the present. Then we have to discover who we are now , since our previous identity with the significant other is gone. As time progresses we realize this is a new chapter in our life and we have to reinvent ourselves. This can be scary if you have been with someone for a long time. Eventually we can see the light at the end of the tunnel. This can be even more difficult with the loss of a spouse with children left behind.

I recently read the book seen above, “Finding Daylight after Loss Shatters Your World, Seven Choices” to help me in my energy work with clients experiencing loss. It was extremely insightful. The best part was letting you know all the weird feelings, emotions and thoughts you experience are totally normal with grief.  I would recommend this book https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Choices-Finding-Daylight-Shatters/dp/0446690503/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1527959510&sr=8-1&keywords=finding+daylight+after+loss+shatters+your+world.+seven+choices

Feel free to contact me if you want to talk for a few minutes about this http://omnigirl.net/contact/

I will be hosting a Guided Meditation ” Living after Loss” on Monday June 18 at 7:30 pm http://omnigirl.net/events/

I would love for you to join me in this group meditation. 

We all have some fond memories from our past as well as some we would like to forget. In our life there will be times when things happen that you don’t expect. You have to decide whether to dwell on them or look at this as a new opportunity in your life. Fifteen years ago, I lost my husband of 17 years suddenly to an aneurysm. My son was seven years old at the time, I had a full time job and just inherited my husband’s business. I was totally overwhelmed. Thanks to kind hearts of my sister, Connie, and my friends, Annette, Debbie, Linda and Dawn I was able to get through the first month of swinging emotions. 

The next two years were a re-definition of who I was as a widow with a small child. I knew in my heart by the end of three years, I had to move back home to the Raleigh area. Downsizing was imperative, since I was retiring and coming to a more expensive area. I left my 1900 sq foot home with a yard and attic to move into a 1200 sq ft town-home without either. I gave away, sold or threw away one half of everything I owned. I could not  believe how much energy was flowing through my home of 18 years after I did that. I honestly hesitated to move because I had such a spacious home now! 

When I moved to Cary, I began a new chapter in my life at the age of 54. I started a home based business, began networking and trying many other new things. I had spent the last 35 years in a clinical lab where everything tightly controlled. This was way outside my comfort zone.  

Four years later, I was hit with auto-immune arthritis and began walking with a cane until I could have my knees replaced. My spiritual path opened back up to deal with the pain. I had begun studying Reiki in 1987 with Veronica  Vela, http://healthecology.com/and knew it was time to make another change.  I progressed to a Reiki Master and also studied Trinity Energy Progression with Angel Coulter http://trinityenergyprogression.com/

After becoming an Ordained Minister( in NC to touch a person you must be ordained or have a massage license, etc) to open an energy healing business. Shortly there after I began officiating weddings. Another BIG step outside my comfort zone, since I do not like to talk in public.  I can honestly say, that this point in my life , the weddings have been one of the most fulfilling things I have ever done. 

By letting go of my past and my definition of who I was, I was able to move to another area and begin a  new career  that is full of fun and excitement.

Many times, we almost have to reach a low level in our life to make a change. It is almost like the Universe is giving us a kick in the butt  to go out there and  try something new. When changes in your life come, embrace them and try to find a positive aspect in what is happening. Our life is defined by how we handle change. We can either stay stuck in the past or go boldly into our future. I know in my heart that moving forward is where our soul wants to go. This life is a spiritual journey – our bodies are just the  vehicles to get there. Don’t look back on life and think “What if”? Take the bull by the horns and create your new life!

If you want to discuss how to do this, contact me by phone or email and we can get you started on your new path! http://omnigirl.net/contact/