Aug 252017

Where were you for the total solar eclipse on August 21, 2017?  I know thousands of people in the United States traveled to South Carolina to see the totality of the solar eclipse. We were fortunate enough to have family in Spartanburg, SC.  Eric and I visited with his Stepmom, Brenda there.  We went to Tyger River Park and watched the eclipse overlooking a river with live music playing. It was so exciting to be there and experience this once in a lifetime event – a nationwide solar eclipse. Everyone picked up their glasses as the eclipse began. It almost looked like a mouse had taken a bite out of the sun as the moon crossed its path. It also reminded me of the different stages of the moon when looking through the glasses, the sun kept getting smaller and smaller. Started as a full sun, then lost a quarter, then a half, then 3/4 till it became totally eclipsed with just the corona surrounding the sun.  It was a spectacular event. Getting dark during the middle of the day gave a surreal feeling to our surroundings. 

Eric and I had talked about getting married or engaged during the eclipse but had not discussed it at length. When the event was about to occur, I asked Brenda to take a photo of us kissing during the total eclipse. Just as she finished taking it, she asked Eric if that was an engagement photo, and he said: “Yes, it is”.  I was speechless, and if you know me it takes a lot to do that. We had been dating for 6 1/2 years and are considered a mature couple – he is 58 and I am 64 years old. I knew it was a possibility but was a little overwhelmed when he answered yes. Needless to say, it was a total eclipse of my heart as well as the sun. Shortly thereafter a reporter returned to our spot and asked what we thought of the eclipse. Eric immediately said we got engaged and we ended up with a photo on the front page of the Herald Journal with an article following

This will always be a time to remember how wonderful this planet Earth and our Solar System is. It helps us understand the connection with our universe and how it is possible to all be connected energetically. This spiritual event that we are fortunate enough to witness, is a reminder of the wondrous things we have yet to explore.  Meditation can lead to a deeper understanding of our universe as well as ourselves. Come join me Monday, August 28 at 7 pm for a meditation focusing on opening the heart chakra to self-love

What has been interesting is the all the questions my wedding vendor friends are asking me about our upcoming wedding since I am a wedding officiant and involved in many weddings in the area

To be quite honest, I have not even thought about a wedding, since I did not know I was going to become engaged this week. Knowing Eric and myself it will be something low-key and fun. As I tell all my wedding couples, it is your wedding and the ceremony can be anything you want. Let’s hope it will not be the next total eclipse of the sun in 2024 before it happens! 

 Posted by at 4:00 pm
Jul 152017

sailboat sunset

Ever wonder why so many people live near the sea? Do you feel more happy, calmer or have more energy? These may not just psychological benefits from the beautiful surroundings.

Negative air ions created when air molecules break apart due to sunshine or moving water and air actually help decrease  depression, increase energy levels and lower stress. This also happens immediately after spring thunderstorms. There can be tens of thousands of negative ions in the air near the ocean or a forest compared to hundreds, thousands or none in your home. If you are at home, jumping in the shower creates negative ions with the spraying water.  

Going outside for about 10 minutes  a day, especially near water,  without sunscreen can help you get the vitamin D that your body needs. It is more difficult to get sufficient  vitamin D from food. Vitamin D has been shown to help prevent osteoporosis and other health conditions.

My favorite part of being near water is the spiritual connection I feel with water. I always feel relaxed and excited at the same time. Looking at the sun reflecting off the water at the lake, beach or even a stream helps me connect with my intuition and spiritual center. It is like a form of meditation . I can allow my thoughts to just flow through my brain and not engage them. Many times when I  stare at the water, I feel like a part of all creation – the water, the sun , the air. My energy seems to flow outward into the universe and makes me smile. See:

Sometimes I swim laps when I have a dilemma I am trying to solve- I can let go of my conscious mind and allow my subconscious mind to take over- usually coming up with a solution I had not thought about. 

Can you hear the ocean waves hitting the shore , the sound of a babbling brook in the woods, or the sound of water hitting your boat in a lake ? Soothing sounds are used to help people sleep . How do you feel when you hear a fountain, ocean wave or brook in the woods? It makes me want to go to sleep when I hear those sounds or at least slow down and enjoy the experience. 

With all the information coming to us from computers, social media and cell phones, we can experience sensory overload. Daily life activities, work, and other commitments can lead to a stressful life which in turn lowers your immunity. Ever get a cold when you are stressed? Stress jacks up your body’s production of cortisol and adrenaline, hormones that lower immune response. Being near water helps reduce stress and  improves your ability to fight off sickness. Other ways to boost your immune system are meditating, spending time with friends, hugging or touching others, laughter (think belly laughs) and exercise.  For guidance in meditation or other stress reducing activities, contact me for a free phone consultation:

Jun 042017

 There is a saying by an unknown author that” people come into your life for a reason, season or a lifetime”.

There are people we meet who help us either spiritually, physically or emotionally and then before we know it they are gone-they are here for a reason. I met a man in my early 20’s who taught me about art, wine and other things in life I had not been exposed to. But this was not a relationship that could last, he was not that kind of person. When the relationship ended I was heart broken for a while, but had grown up quite a bit from the young woman I was before. 

There are 3 people with whom I was very close but was only with them for a season of my life. My father was the most loving people I have ever met.  He taught me that I could do anything I wanted in life if I wanted it and was willing to work for it. I felt I was equal to anyone including men -unusual thought for a girl born in the early  1950s. He made me change a tire on my car by myself before I ever drove it-during the era without cell phones.  But he loved all his kids even the neighborhood kids. He worked all the time as a plumber. I was so shocked in high school, when I was inducted into the National Honor Society , but the best part was my father had taken off work, got dressed in his Sunday best to come see me get the award. My mother loved me dearly but she had severe rheumatoid arthritis and it was too much for her to come.  My father died when I was 19 from a rare autoimmune disease, and I remember the little boy next door asking ” would he not get to walk on our ceiling anymore since his friend had died”. My father was in many people’s lives for only a season, but what a wonderful season that was. 

My mother was my best friend in the world, she taught me compassion, acceptance, tolerance, faith and unconditional love for all people. She left this earthly plane when I was 29 – so it was more than just a “season” of my life but way too soon. I probably got my attitude of “I can do anything ” from her also. She left home at 16 to move into town with an aunt to finish the 12th grade of high school- in Greenville, if you lived in the country, the school only went to 11 grades. Then instead of marrying a farmer, she moved to the big city of Raleigh, much to the shock of my grandfather ,to get a higher education. Although this was in the 1940s , my father had to ask her 3 times before she consented to marriage at the old age of 26. All my friends and everyone that met my mother, always left feeling better than when they got there. Her rheumatoid arthritis was in every joint of her body and she was in constant pain, but she did not complain, she found a way to make you feel better. That is a rare trait among us mortal beings. 

My husband , who was with me for 17 years, was my 3rd person in my life for a “season”. I got married when I was 36, and had a baby at 42 and he was left this earthly plane just after I turned 50. I always knew I was loved by him and was devastated when he died. But I knew I had to make a life for me and my 8 year old son, so we moved back to Raleigh 4 years later.  

I have had many blessings of friends for a lifetime. My sister , Connie, has been with me the longest. I love her with all my heart. We shared a room growing up and I don’t ever remember cross words,although as a teenager I didn’t always want her to go with me everywhere. She has been with me through thick and thin. All my life challenges- loss of my husband  2 serious surgeries in the last few years- she is always a comfort to me and helps me think I can make it through anything with her by my side. Annette, a friend since I was 13, has always been there for me too. She and my sister were my Lamaze coaches for me when my son was born. These 2 women have been with me in every major life event good or bad- I am truly thankful for their presence in my life. 

I still see my  girlfriends from junior high:, Annette, Linda, Glenda, Ellen, and Harriet for birthdays, graduations, weddings, vacations, sickness, and funerals. These women are all part of my emotional foundation and I can not thank them enough for being there in all parts of my life.

My girlfriend , Diane, whom I have known since I was 7 , is always there for me. We have gone years in the past without talking to each other and pick up like it was yesterday. My son and I traveled with her many times after my husband died, which was very therapeutic to both of us. I have an open invitation to Carolina Beach anytime I want it!

I met Shigeko while working in biochemistry at NCSU. She loved to cook Japanese food and I loved to eat. We became friends, and have visited many times Iver the last 40 years. She is the most gracious host and generous friend anyone could ask for. And did I mention what a good cook she is?

There are so many people that have graced my life by meeting them, but one person I would like to mention is Veronica , who I meet in my early 30s. She introduced me to the Course in Miracles and Reiki in 1987. I was searching for a spiritual practice after my mother died and found her. It has changed my life and enhanced my journey to spiritual freedom. 

Even though I have only known Angela for the last 10 years, she has helped me grow spiritually and been a true asset to my life’s journey, by encouraging me to  start an energy healing business and to officiate weddings. She has been a true blessing to me.

Remember , the people you meet are here for a reason, season or lifetime . They are part of your soul’s journey in this lifetime, whether it be a pleasant encounter or not so pleasant. To live a joy-filled life, be thankful for all those you meet, they are here to help you grow and learn how limitless you truly are! Enjoy this journey called life , it is all part of the human experience!


May 022017


Feeling stuck in a rut? Changing jobs, relationships or location? Experiencing chronic pain or illness that doesn’t seem to improve? An energy healing session may benefit you. Energy healing is based on the theory that we are all made of energy. Sometimes the energy in our body can become congested or misaligned leading to pain, illness, confusion or a feeling that something is lacking in our life. Energy practitioners may be able to help. The practitioner serves as a guide to your energetic system and can assist you in removing energy blocks , thus allowing the energy to flow more freely in the body. This same concept is used in acupuncture and acupressure, more well known forms of energy healing. 

Here are some times in your life when you might want to try energy healing:

If you are feeling confused when trying to make decisions or stuck in a rut and  can not seem to get a clear answer, then an energy practitioner may be able to help you connect with your spiritual energy center.  You could determine what you truly want and what is in your best interest, by releasing  congestion in your energy fields caused by an overflow of information. Four years after the sudden death of my husband , I was feeling stuck and need to make a life change. Using Reiki, a type of energy healing, I was able to connect to my spiritual center and make a decision to move back to my home town. It was a big leap, since I would have to retire and bring my 12 year old son with me. But I knew intuitively it was the one of the most important decisions that would enhance our lives for the future. 

Have you had a trauma recently or even in your childhood?  The death of a loved one, or something in our childhood that made you feel unworthy? Many times emotional issues can cause energy stagnation in the body and it is hard to move forward without releasing the energy associated with the trauma. Our emotions not only affect our mind and body but also our spirit and energy fields. My mother died after entering a coma when I was 29 years old. After being depressed for 3 months, her spirit came to visit me while I was sleeping. The next day after talking to her ” spiritual body” all night, I felt like a new person. I regained my joy of life and starting going out and seeing friends again. The connection with my spiritual center allowed me to see her and release the emotional loss of not speaking to her before her death. 

Surgery , serious injury or illness can cause the energy system in our body to go out of whack.  Energy healing has helped me many times with chronic pain, surgery or a serious health condition. I experienced a sudden onset of auto-immune arthritis 6 years ago, waking up and not being able to walk by myself. After 4 weeks of constant pain, a friend shared a guided meditation with me by email. I thought I was practicing my meditations, but I was not going deep enough to help the pain. All of a sudden I started bawling with my head bobbing up and down and felt the pain significantly decrease. I realized the power of a connection with the universal life force once again. The energy work I did on myself also helped me recover from a double knee replacement and go white water rafting 6 months later. 

Changing jobs or relationships can cause inner confusion. Asking your inner guide , your intuitive self, for guidance will help make the path more clear when in a transition. When leaving clinical lab after 35 years, I knew I needed a big life change. I again spent time in meditation and connecting spiritually to my core to decide what was my best path. I began working with a Vegan skin care and nutrition company. This in turn introduced me to many new people who have become long time friends.

I then  became a Trinity Energy Progression Practitioner allowing me the courage to step out of the “Spiritual Closet” and begin my energy healing business as well as officiating weddings.  This new phase of my life has enriched it more than I can express. I feel such a wonderful connection with my clients and wedding couples and know this is what I was meant to do with my life. It took me many years to find my new direction, but with the help of energy healing  I found it!!

Beginning a meditation or yoga practice can also help you connect to your intuitive self. Done on a daily basis, mediation gives insight in many areas of your life. A weekly Yoga practice is great for the intuition as well as the body. 

Any time you need a jump start on life, give energy healing a try.  It may seem like  something foreign to you. but we are all divine beings and it is our birthright to connect to our inner guidance and experience a limitless life filled with joy!


 Posted by at 1:59 pm
Mar 112017

Which love language speaks to you:  words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, or physical touch? These love languages are from the book “The Five Love Languages: The Secret To Love That Lasts” by Gary Chapman. Learning your own love language and the one of your partner can be key to feeling loved and appreciated in your relationship.

Do you feel loved when someone says “I love you” or compliments you on how wonderful you are? Many of us need verbal messages to feel appreciated from our partner. This may be what we experienced growing up or have felt was a show of love from others or from we have seen in the media.

Do you feel loved when someone takes time out of their schedule to do quality activities together? It could be dinner, a movie, hiking, boating ,etc.  You may feel that you are truly close to the person when engaged in an activity that you enjoy, especially if it is not their “cup of tea”. By their willingness to do something you enjoy, it sends a message that you are important and they are want to see you happy.

When you receive a gift , without a special occasion, does it make you feel closer to your partner? It is a welcome surprise to realize you are being thought of in the moment and not just out of a social obligation for a birthday, anniversary or holiday .

Recently , my partner, Eric, spent a whole week in between his regular job as an electrician , to place new laminate floors in my home. His “act of service” was a truly generous gift.  It taxed him physically and mentally since he had to juggle his other jobs to do this. This was one of the most loving things I have experienced. I realize that this type of love language is how he shows his feelings. In the past, I have not always appreciated this, but after reading the “Five Love Languages” I found that love can be expressed in many ways. After taking the “love quiz” in the book, I discovered that is how I show love also. I am a nurturer with my partner even sometimes too much. I take time to prepare healthy food and to assure he is eating well. I also try to do errands for him whenever his schedule is hectic.

Does a hug or kiss make you feel loved? I am talking about affection, not sex. The physical touching by another person is something we all crave. There is a saying by Virginia Satir, a respected family therapist, “We need four hugs a day for survival. We need eight hugs a day for maintenance. We need twelve hugs a day for growth.” I totally agree with her. Some people are not used to physical touch and it is difficult for them to express their feelings this way. To others  it is as natural as breathing. I come from a family of huggers. All my friends know that hugging is something I do automatically without thinking. This is one of the ways I feel loved. I realize that sometimes I need to initiate this since my partner can not always “read my mind”.

In the “Five Love Languages”, Gary Chapman says to keep love alive you need to understand how your partner feels loved and try to express it in that manner. One way to tell is how your partner shows love to you. Usually the way a person expresses love is the way that they feel loved themselves.

A simple exercise to discover this is for both  of you write a list of the 5 ways your partner shows love to you. It can be providing financial support, taking care of the kids, sending  flowers, hugging every day , going to theater or saying “I love you” when you are least expecting it.

Now try expressing love to them in the same manner they show their love for you. It may not seem natural, but it can make a big difference in your relationship. To love another unconditionally  is a true joy. It is your choice to keep this joy in your life by letting them know how much you care in a way that they understand.

This blog is dedicated to Eric Lytle, to show my true appreciation for all you do by your “acts of service”.  And for helping me realize there is more than one way  to show love. For more information concerning wedding ceremonies : .  Please contact me if you would like to discuss ways to enhance your relationships:


 Posted by at 3:23 pm
Jan 082017

Wil, my son, and I met Tag when he was 4 months old. He was a rescue in need of rescue. Marty and Carol found him outside and knew he was not safe. They brought him into their home but their older dog did not like the new pup. I was hesitant at first but he was so sweet and I was assured he would not get past 35 pounds. I should have looked at his paws , they were already huge, but common sense went out the window when we looked into his beautiful brown “cow ” eyes. He proceeded to grow into a an 85 pound black lab.

He was a joy in our home since Wil’s Dad had passed away almost 2 years before, we felt the empty space was filling up again. He was so loving and followed us everywhere-hence the name Tag for tag along. One day a few months after he came to us, Wil and I jumped when we heard this loud , deep bark! He has never barked before but a friend came to the door and Tag was alerting us.  His whole 12 years of life , we never heard him bark unless someone was coming in our house.

Tag always greeted each guest at the door, many times a little too enthusiastically, wanting to jump up and give them a kiss- from 85 pounds of muscle! He would even moan at the door when my boyfriend , Eric , was outside. Everyone that entered our home felt special. Tag would give them his undivided attention and of course they petted  him for being so loving. One time my friend, Linda, came over and I had to restrain him since he was so excited . When I let him go, he flew across the room and proceeded to try to kiss on love on her so much we almost fell over laughing.

He was full of energy. When he was younger, we had to stand guard on the door. The minute it opened he would fly outside and take a run through the woods. I felt my heart stop when he took off down Ash St in Goldsboro with lots of traffic. He seemed to have a special protection even when crossing Maynard Rd in Cary – a busy four lane road. He did slow down and not take off in his older years, but even this past Thanksgiving , when we took him to my cousin’s house in the woods, he took off again! He loved to sniff more than any dog I have seen, thus his nickname “hound dog”.

But at heart he was a true part of our family. If I let him outside on a lead, he wanted to come back in and be with his “family”. He was always there when Wil or I needed some cheering up or a friend to tell our troubles to. Even if we were in a bad mood, he would wait patiently until it passed. He always made you feel that everything would be OK, with his loving eyes.

I realized even in his last 6 weeks, he was looking after us. He started acting lethargic and not eating about once every week or two. I did not think it was serious since the vet said at his last exam he had the body of a 6 year old. His blood work was terrific with everything in normal range  within the last month.  He was so strong , it took two people to cut his toenails. The week before he left this earthly plane, he almost dragged me across the parking  lot with a  harness on to see another dog. He never once acted ugly to another dog, unless they were doing the “hump” thing, and he let them know it was not OK.

But we had started thinking about him not being here with us forever with these episodes of lethargy , preparing us in advance. The day before he died, he jumped up on my tall bed and even pulled me to keep walking when we got back home. I am so thankful that he only felt an hour of discomfort before he left. He took him to the vet, but it was so quick there was nothing  they could do. He even spared us the pain of making a choice about his death.

I still see him out of the corner of my eye when I am in the house. I find myself trying to give him a food scrap since he loved the tidbits so much. I saw him in the clouds a few days after he left, running through the woods at full speed. I thought now you can run all you want to ! He taught Wil and I a lot about unconditional love and gave us much joy and peace over his 12 years of life here on earth. We thought we were rescuing him but I think he was rescuing us.  I am passing on all his food, supplements and items to another rescue group. Rescue dogs are so full of love and we were honored to have one in our life for so many years. Here is to you, Tag, may you run wild and free forever. ( Tag left to go to the spiritual plane on 12-28-16).


 Posted by at 5:21 pm
Dec 242016

Are you putting off  meditating because you think you have to sit in a lotus position and not have any thoughts at all?

Meditation can come in many forms. The purpose is to let go of the constant stream of thoughts that inhabits our brain all day long. The thoughts will still come and go but as I say in my guided meditations, it is OK to think about going to the grocery store, but don’t engage in that thought and start making a list. Calming your thoughts to enter the Alpha state , a deep, relaxed state, is beneficial in so many ways. It reduces stress, increases performance, improves memory and concentration, boosts immunity, and enhances creativity.

Visual, musical, or written artists seem to tap into this state when creating their art.  Many will say that the art just comes to them as a flow from outside themselves. This seems to be true of other professions such as scientists and engineers who come up with an idea that has never been seen before. Albert Einstein and Thomas Edison entered the Alpha state to solve problems that they could not resolve in the “thinking state ” .

Listening to music, watching theater or reading poetry is a wonderful way to transcend your everyday thoughts and tap into a “higher intuitive state”. There are times when I have been watching a musical and forgot everything except the the creativity in front of my eyes.

Walking in nature  can be meditative to many people. I know when I am in nature especially near trees and water, I feel  connected to all living things. It is one reason I love camping or traveling to new places. Many people when engaged in sports enter the “zone”, a non-thinking space where you are totally in tune with your body. Have you ever been hiking or exercising and solved a problem that had been eluding you forever?

Another form of meditation for me is cooking. I know it sounds crazy but I am totally into what I am doing. I am enjoying the smells and texture of the food I am preparing. It is super relaxing to me and transports me out of my busy thoughts. Do you have a hobby or activity that allows you to completely leave your everyday world for a little while?

Many people think they do not have time to meditate , but as most successful people know who meditate, it actually makes them much more productive and less stressed during their day. I find nothing seems insurmountable if I start my day with a short meditation. I also can solve questions I have been pondering during the meditation and feel connections to others that are in need of a kind word. I have called many people after they came to me in mediation and they said “I was just thinking about you”.

In the New Year coming up, how about doing something for yourself ? Start a new practice of 10-20 minutes of morning meditation before you start your day. If that is not possible, then try it during a break or just before bed. I promise you the 10 minutes you give to yourself will come back 10 fold during the day. You can start by Googling “Guided Meditations”.

I am also offering free 20 Minute Guided Meditations at Cherish Yourself in Cary  from 6:30-7 pm. The dates are January 4 and 24, 2017; and February 7 and 22, 2017 . Let me know if you would like to join me, as you decide that taking care of yourself is the best gift you can give others.



 Posted by at 1:24 pm
Nov 272016

white-water-raftingMost of my early life, I went to school, worked full time and socialized with my friends. In my mid 20’s ,  I took a clogging class by myself. It was a little intimidating , but  I really wanted to learn. I met a couple of guys at a bluegrass festival who invited me to a  square dance in Chapel Hill. After several months, they invited me to try out for the Apple Chill Cloggers. I was shocked since I was not a professional clogger. But I auditioned and joined the team, and danced in NC , surrounding states and 5 countries in Europe. My life has never been the same since.

My next “jump out of my comfort zone” was white water rafting in my late 20’s. I am not a dare devil , but I am very active. My first trip to the New River on Class 5 rapids, was the most scary and exciting thing I had ever done. I even sat up front -where all the action is. I was hooked.

But as life happens, it was 15 years later for my next “jump”. I started trying to get pregnant at 39 , most of my friends thought I had lost my mind. I had  a wonderful son, at 42 years old, who loves ballroom dancing .

Seven years after the birth of my son, my husband died suddenly.  I made the decision to retire and move back to Raleigh. This was one of the biggest life decisions I had ever made, my guidance was so strong that I refused to listen to any negative thoughts.

Fast forward, 3 years later , at the age of 57, my next “jump” was zip lining and hot air ballooning. This may not seem like a big deal to you, but I have always had a fear of heights. I made up my mind I could do it now or never do it in my life. As far as the white water rafting , I resumed this at the same age and have been 5 times, even 6 months after a double knee replacement-to the adverse warnings of my friends.

Three years ago, I again “jumped out of my comfort zone” in the most uncomfortable way. I came out of the “spiritual closet” after working for 35 years in  clinical labs . I had been practicing Reiki since 1987, but now started my energy healing business , became a Trinity Energy Progression Practitioner, a Reiki Master, Ordained Minister  and created this website to help others on their spiritual journey.

If you had told me 5 years ago , that I would be standing up in front of 150 people and officiating a wedding, I would have thought you had lost your mind. I have always had a fear of public speaking, but I realized that the ceremonies are all about the couples and their love for each other and I am only there to provide guidance and support for them.

I even spoke at my Aunt Melba’s funeral this year . This was a real “jump” since I am such a cry baby at funerals. I loved her so much, she was like a mother to me.. But she lived such a life of unconditional love, I felt guided to do this. I wrote the speech early the next morning and made it through with only a couple of stops to regain my composure. My cousins were so happy and I was glad I had honored her memory by speaking from my heart.

My encouragement to you is to listen to your guidance and take that “JUMP” out of your comfort zone. If I had stayed in my “safety zone” after my 20’s , my life would have been less complete and I would always wonder, “What if?”

You can start by learning to meditate on a daily basis. I would suggest starting with a  guided mediation  , it makes it easier to turn down the volume of all those continuous thoughts in your head. This allows you to listen to your spiritual center for guidance and choose what is truly for your highest and best benefit .  I am here for questions, if you need any “boost” to get started.


 Posted by at 11:41 am
Nov 202016

paddle-outRecently I stayed with my friend , Diane,since I was officiating a wedding at nearby Wrightsville Beach the following day. She asked if Eric and I would like to go to a “Paddle Out” the next morning before the wedding. She said it was a very spiritual event. I was confused , so she explained when a surfer dies, they honor them with a “paddle out” . All the surfers at Carolina Beach that knew Luke, the surfer who had passed to the spiritual realm recently,  brought their surfboards to the beach . There was a short service as follows:

“Poseidon,Lord of the great clear blue sea, crashing waves and all the fair waters of the world; your might is well known, well governed and well wielded. Oh, God who commands the white capped waves, we praise and honor you.

Poseidon, friend of the sailor, the fisherman,the surfer and all who find joy,  livelihood on sea coast and shoreline; we pray for your good will and are grateful for your blessings.

Send your mermaids and dolphins to carry the soul of your servant, Luke, to eternal life in your domain. Bring peace and tranquility to Melissa and Fisher. Let family and friends who have passed before be united in joy with Luke. Forgive any wrongs that have been committed and welcome the beloved spirit of Luke into the warm entrance of your domain.


Ben McHorney 10/16/2016 with the blowing of the conch and blessing with wine. ”

Then all the surfers took a fresh flower with them and paddled out into the ocean where a boat with Luke’s ashes  and his close family were aboard. The ashes were poured into the sea and all the paddlers slapped the water in honor of this.

From all the movies I have seen, I thought surfers were loners and not really part of a tight community. But after witnessing this and realizing their entwining souls with nature, I realize what a connected and spiritual group the surfers really are.

When thinking of any group closely connected to nature such as American Indians, Australian Aborigine, or Alaskan Inuit , there is a spiritual quality of their beliefs connected to the Earth and a Creator. The same seems true for the surfers that feel a spiritual connection to the sea.

I find that while hiking in the woods or playing in the lakes or ocean , I feel a deep spiritual connection to the nature around me and the Creator. This seems to be the easiest place to “ground” myself. There is a peacefulness to the waves and trees that pervades my soul whenever I am there. It helps me see the “whole universe” instead of the small things that do not matter in this lifetime. Loving relationships with those around us including animals, plants and the Earth are the true path to spiritual fulfillment.


 Posted by at 6:30 pm
Oct 092016


My sister, Connie, has always had animal friends as long as I can remember, especially horses and dogs.  She loves them  completely and they love her back.  It warms my heart to see her with her animals and the bond they have.

When I was growing up, I was more of a nature girl and spent a lot of time in the woods near creeks and streams.  I had a lot of “other worldly” friends like fairies and wood nymphs.  My imagination ran wild, but I was never lonely.  My friend, Diane, in the photo always wanted to see my fairy that I kept in a matchbox.  But I explained that if I opened the box and showed her,the fairy would fly away.  As I become more and more in tune with the spiritual world,I realized that a lot of the comfort I received from these “imaginary” friends was actually real, just another form of energy on a different plane.

As a single woman out on my own, I was given a white Eskimo Spitz , Rhiannon, by a co-worker.  Rhiannon became my constant companion for 14 years.  I was told that Spitz only like their owners, so as a small puppy, I took her to many pig pickings in North Carolina and let everyone play with her.  In later years, she was hit by a car and we rushed her to the emergency  vet.  He asked if I was sure she was a Spitz, because he had never seen one with that loving personality.  She went beyond her nature and gave back the love she received.

All my friends knew that if they invited me to their home, that Rhiannon was coming.  They could politely ask me not to bring her, but that rarely happened.  I began dating Sonny, my future husband who was a cat lover not a dog lover.  When I would visit him, the dog came also.  He tolerated her  because she was ” the smartest dog he had ever seen”.  Near the end of her life, this “cat lover” husband was taking her to his business everyday to give her heart medicine at lunch time.  She gave so much unconditional love to everyone she met, that it was impossible not to fall in love with her.

My son was born a few years after Rhiannon died, and I would tell him that he was my first human child ,but I had another child before him, my dog child.  If you are an animal lover, you understand this. Don’t let anyone ever tell you that you are being silly about your pet. They offer us so much emotional support and true unconditional love that they qualify as part of our family, hands down.  Whenever we are sad, they are there. Whenever we are angry, they don’t understand but stay near us anyway.  And the loving look they have when we are happy is truly joyous.

Since Rhiannon, I have had  2 rescue cats, Slate and Charcoal who lived outdoors and indoors most of their 17 years of living. Charcoal even became a full time housecoat when we moved to Cary, because I was worried about the traffic. This independent “outdoor” cat that could not be picked up, eventually slept in my bed and would tap my nose , hidden in between two pillows to get rubbed.

My son, Wil and I have had a black rescue lab, Tag, for 12 years. He is the joy of our life. He is always there to comfort us when anything goes awry.  We took him in  3 years after we lost Sonny, my husband and Wil’s dad.  Tag helped fill the void we had after Sonny’s departure to the spiritual plane. We could have not been gifted with a better ‘soulmate ” than Tag. He is one of the the most loving creatures, I have ever met. He is constantly following one or the other around the house, unless he is taking his beauty naps, which are more frequent now. The vet says his body is like a 6 year old, but I believe it is due to all the love he gives and receives. He still gets super excited to go for a daily walk and when he occasionally gets chicken skin for a treat.

No words can describe the passing of one of our furry friends. Some people do not understand the bond we have but we know we have a lost a friend who has loved us unconditionally through thick and thin. We can find comfort in the knowledge that their spirit will always be with us. We will never be alone, if we only open our heart to hear them.  This blog is for you Diane , who lost her longtime dog child, Austin , this past week. They are pictured above with her grandson, Jaxon. I love you and know that Austin’s spirit will always be there for you .

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